*. We are never going back to Iran.
I don't care if Iran were to be liberal democracy tomorrow.
an overwhelming majority of us will have kids here.
We might even have some grand kids.
We have jobs.
we are just assimilated to the eco-system where we are.
We have got used to this system and we would not really prefer living in Iran aside from the fact that people talk farsi on the street.
*. Now that we are here. Start becoming part of the society.
Go Volunteering every once in a while.
For F**k sake i have never seen an Iranian doctor or nurse volunteer. ( I am sure there are some) but not nearly enough.
Never seen an Iranian engineer or Math Teacher to go down boys and girls club to tutor the kids.
* Stop inserting backward ideas from homeland into your second generation kids here. (let them integrate)
Arabs are animals
Indians are filthy.
Mexicans are lazy.
Russians are drunks.
We Iranians are Aryans.
Japanese and Koreans are smart.
Blacks are dangerous.
Whites are superior yet conspirators.
* Stop pushing the kids to STEM fields
a huge number of us push our kids to be either Medical doctors or go into some STEM
Yes for moment they are make more money.
but some people's brains are not wired for that. don't make your kids miserable (I have seen two second second gen kids in my city commit sucide)
incidentally they had pushy parents.
We need Iranian kids in humanities and other fields. It won't hurt to have second gen iranian kids that are mechanics
or farmers or ...
* Teaching the kids mother language.
if you speak Farsi, Arabic, Turkish (Azeri) whatever.
don't try to take little kids to concerts with a 60 year old Iranian guy singing.
Just invest a bit of your time and remotely try to speak 30 minutes of proper native language with your kids.
* Stop Micro Managing every aspect of your kids Lives.
For Fuck sake let them be normal.
Don't fucking cook for them and take it to their college.
Don't take their car to oil change for them.
Don't remind them of their credit card bills.
Don't push them to be in extra Credit Classes (Honor)
Stop Comparing them to other kids.
Stop telling them who made how much money.
They don't have to be super successful (monetarily) to be happy kids.
if your kid ended up being a Middle School Teacher HE /She is not a failure.
if your kid can draw. don't tell her there is no future in that.
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I know some here disagree with all some of these points.
Whatever you do; let these second gen kids just be.
I am not saying let's have kids that habitual stoners.
Just let them be. Not Extra Cocky because and no with an inferiority complex.
I don't care if Iran were to be liberal democracy tomorrow.
an overwhelming majority of us will have kids here.
We might even have some grand kids.
We have jobs.
we are just assimilated to the eco-system where we are.
We have got used to this system and we would not really prefer living in Iran aside from the fact that people talk farsi on the street.
*. Now that we are here. Start becoming part of the society.
Go Volunteering every once in a while.
For F**k sake i have never seen an Iranian doctor or nurse volunteer. ( I am sure there are some) but not nearly enough.
Never seen an Iranian engineer or Math Teacher to go down boys and girls club to tutor the kids.
* Stop inserting backward ideas from homeland into your second generation kids here. (let them integrate)
Arabs are animals
Indians are filthy.
Mexicans are lazy.
Russians are drunks.
We Iranians are Aryans.
Japanese and Koreans are smart.
Blacks are dangerous.
Whites are superior yet conspirators.
* Stop pushing the kids to STEM fields
a huge number of us push our kids to be either Medical doctors or go into some STEM
Yes for moment they are make more money.
but some people's brains are not wired for that. don't make your kids miserable (I have seen two second second gen kids in my city commit sucide)
incidentally they had pushy parents.
We need Iranian kids in humanities and other fields. It won't hurt to have second gen iranian kids that are mechanics
or farmers or ...
* Teaching the kids mother language.
if you speak Farsi, Arabic, Turkish (Azeri) whatever.
don't try to take little kids to concerts with a 60 year old Iranian guy singing.
Just invest a bit of your time and remotely try to speak 30 minutes of proper native language with your kids.
* Stop Micro Managing every aspect of your kids Lives.
For Fuck sake let them be normal.
Don't fucking cook for them and take it to their college.
Don't take their car to oil change for them.
Don't remind them of their credit card bills.
Don't push them to be in extra Credit Classes (Honor)
Stop Comparing them to other kids.
Stop telling them who made how much money.
They don't have to be super successful (monetarily) to be happy kids.
if your kid ended up being a Middle School Teacher HE /She is not a failure.
if your kid can draw. don't tell her there is no future in that.
-------------
I know some here disagree with all some of these points.
Whatever you do; let these second gen kids just be.
I am not saying let's have kids that habitual stoners.
Just let them be. Not Extra Cocky because and no with an inferiority complex.