Would you rather...
Spend your life, finishing your education, working a 9 to 5 job, have a family, a mortgage and spend your life the old fashion way.
Or
Spend your life travelling the world, working here and there and see everything, do everything you have ever wanted at the prime of your life.
I find the perception of that ideology "get married, have children, buy a house and work" so dull, yet so implanted into society that if anyone actually does anything different they are seen as insane. Me and my girlfriend of nearly 4 years both don't want children, (sure we are both still only 23, and the idea of having children is to early) but the actual idea of children does not interest us. And personally the older i get, the more i cringe to the idea of becoming a father. I want to be able to work, travel and spend as much time travelling and experiencing different countries as possible, whenever i want. Without having the obligations of a child, i know that maybe in a couple of years my thoughts on how i want to spend my life might change.
Many of my friends, are currently spending their lives travelling across the world, some have been travelling for the past 2-3 years now. Hiking in the himalayas, living in Mexico, studying in Canada, driving through Europe and USA. Some even doing charity work in African countries.
Sometimes it gets depressing to just sit on facebook and see all the updates from all your close friends and the way they are spending their lives, while your busy living up to the ideology of society. Specially coming from a persian family i am sure many of you know the pressure that we go through in terms of "you have to study to become somebody in society". I completely understand that notion though, as a parent they only want the best for their children, specially families who specifically left Iran to give their children all the opportunities in life.
I guess it could be my pre-graduation nerves kicking in, but a little voice in my head is telling me with quite a confident tone as if he knows that once i graduate thats it. I begin my 9 to 5 job, move out and buy a house. And then i am stuck, i have entered the norm of how the majority of society lives. At the end of the day, why else did i study for 5 years to gain a respectable job in society? I have to work 9 to 5, Monday to Friday, be a good husband/father and provide and attend mehmonis every Saturday night with the family for choleh kebab/gheymeh, where everyone can tell you how proud they are of you for becoming a lawyer. While deep inside, all you can think about is the next 40 years of your life doing the same repetitive crap week in, week out. Until you become too old that you retire, and continue doing another series of repetitive crap until you pass away.
Anyone here regret the path they took in life? Doesn't matter what it is, if you have a family (i am sure you don't regret having a family) that's not what i was implying, i just meant do you wish you could have done anything differently? What exact choices do you think you made in life that actually brought you to where you are right now and if you could go back would you change anything?
Spend your life, finishing your education, working a 9 to 5 job, have a family, a mortgage and spend your life the old fashion way.
Or
Spend your life travelling the world, working here and there and see everything, do everything you have ever wanted at the prime of your life.
I find the perception of that ideology "get married, have children, buy a house and work" so dull, yet so implanted into society that if anyone actually does anything different they are seen as insane. Me and my girlfriend of nearly 4 years both don't want children, (sure we are both still only 23, and the idea of having children is to early) but the actual idea of children does not interest us. And personally the older i get, the more i cringe to the idea of becoming a father. I want to be able to work, travel and spend as much time travelling and experiencing different countries as possible, whenever i want. Without having the obligations of a child, i know that maybe in a couple of years my thoughts on how i want to spend my life might change.
Many of my friends, are currently spending their lives travelling across the world, some have been travelling for the past 2-3 years now. Hiking in the himalayas, living in Mexico, studying in Canada, driving through Europe and USA. Some even doing charity work in African countries.
Sometimes it gets depressing to just sit on facebook and see all the updates from all your close friends and the way they are spending their lives, while your busy living up to the ideology of society. Specially coming from a persian family i am sure many of you know the pressure that we go through in terms of "you have to study to become somebody in society". I completely understand that notion though, as a parent they only want the best for their children, specially families who specifically left Iran to give their children all the opportunities in life.
I guess it could be my pre-graduation nerves kicking in, but a little voice in my head is telling me with quite a confident tone as if he knows that once i graduate thats it. I begin my 9 to 5 job, move out and buy a house. And then i am stuck, i have entered the norm of how the majority of society lives. At the end of the day, why else did i study for 5 years to gain a respectable job in society? I have to work 9 to 5, Monday to Friday, be a good husband/father and provide and attend mehmonis every Saturday night with the family for choleh kebab/gheymeh, where everyone can tell you how proud they are of you for becoming a lawyer. While deep inside, all you can think about is the next 40 years of your life doing the same repetitive crap week in, week out. Until you become too old that you retire, and continue doing another series of repetitive crap until you pass away.
Anyone here regret the path they took in life? Doesn't matter what it is, if you have a family (i am sure you don't regret having a family) that's not what i was implying, i just meant do you wish you could have done anything differently? What exact choices do you think you made in life that actually brought you to where you are right now and if you could go back would you change anything?
